I get my kicks above the waistline, Sunshine
by Me on May.14, 2009, under Friends Are Forever
Just so you know, I am still a non-smoker. Yay, me!
Spouse, on the other hand, has already fallen off the wagon. He has been good enough to confine his smoking to the outdoors but I wonder what’s going to happen in January?
Much as I would like to keep Louis CK on the front page here because I just so enjoy that Conan clip, I figure I ought to update this blog at least once a month.
So, now that the housekeeping is out of the way.
I find myself at a transitional point, a crossroad in my life. In fact, I’m feeling a bit like a chrysalis, in the process of transforming into … what? A moth? A butterfly?
Mothra? Hard to say.
I’ll have more to say about new directions on new paths and larval metamorphosis in future posts. In any event, whatever I wind up turning into, I am wondering how many of the people who are in my life now will still be in my life when I’m done?
This is about How To Have Relationships With Dawn, and about the number of people who don’t seem to know How To Have Relationships With Dawn.
An odd sort of thing. I never thought it was especially hard but, since I am Dawn, what do I know?
So, for the uninitiated, here’s the thing about Relationships With Dawn: I’m not the sort of person who likes to do things with you. I won’t call and say, “Hey, let’s go bowling!”
Or “let’s go to the movies!”
Or “let’s pick up guys young enough to be our offspring and boink ‘em!”
That’s not really my style.
If you and I are going to be friends (or have any other sort of relationship, for that matter), that means we will talk.
We will explore each others’ minds though the enjoyment of rational, intelligent conversation about things that may or may not have to do with ourselves personally. We can talk about you and we can talk about me. We can also talk about the geopolitical situation and about neuroscience and about fitness videos and about classic movies and about twitter and about our favorite books and …
Well, I expect you get the idea.
It all comes down to this: my relationships consist of conversations.
So, if we’re not talking, then we’re not having a relationship.
Ponder that … and get back to me, if you’re feeling so inclined.

May 14th, 2009 on 11:15 am
Let’s talk!
I’m the same way, I’m more interested in learning what makes people tick than “doing stuff”, although these don’t have to be mutually exclusive.
Jane
May 18th, 2009 on 12:57 pm
And you know, if I had to pick somebody or a set of somebodys I’d expect to have some of this stuff in common with me, Jane would definitely have made the list.
But, you see, that’s how I know I like you even though we don’t know each other very well. You are a thoughtful (as in “full of thought) individual and one of my hobbies is to trot through life collecting people who think.
“Doing stuff” doesn’t automatically exclude talking, that’s true enough. And you don’t want to talk ALL the time. I guess it’s just a question of priorities, that’s all.