Comments on: Friendship and foregiveness

By: GinaBug

GinaBug — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000

Am I like that Mom???

I know some people who do that, but I don’t know if I do, cause I want to be a good person too.

By: Me

Me — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000

Well, my sweet life, you do sometimes get angry when you know you’re wrong and are afraid you’re going to get nailed as soon as you admit it.

Some of that is our fault, because we’ve (or some of us -ahem- ) have done that to you before.

But … I know that you are a very strong person. So, if you know you’re wrong, try to have the courage to admit it. If you do that with somebody who can’t be trusted, then you’ll have done the honorable thing and you’ll have learned something. And knowing you’ve done what’s right really does help you sleep better at night … or so I’ve always found.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000

I’ve always contended that part of a good apology is an assurance that it won’t happen again. It identifies the heart of the issue and allows everyone to relax. There’s a huge difference between a wrangled, sometimes-forced “’sorry” and a sincere “I’m done. I’m sorry. I won’t do it again…”

By: Me

Me — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000

That’s very true!

Another important piece of the puzzle is to avoid trying to make your error their fault. As in, “I’m sorry. I won’t do that again. I wouldn’t have done it at all if only you hadn’t … ”

Maybe they did, but … a real apology means no excuses.

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000

I’ve said this before. Just the difference is that I didn’t say it so long. wish people would listen to me too…

By: Me

Me — Wed, 31 Dec 1969 17:00:00 +0000

Yeah, Steve, I know I’m kinda long-winded. Hazard of being a writer.